Transformation of Life – By Unleashing Your Core Values

We are taking many decisions in our everyday life; Researchers at Cornell University estimate we make 226.7 decisions each day on food alone. It is estimated that the average adult makes about 35,000 remotely conscious decisions each day – there are some kind of decisions viz.  Choose about tea/coffee, choose about types of foods, choose about breakfast, Choose about dresses, etc. etc. etc.. these are relatively simple decisions which are relatively low impact on life.

But when we talk about really complicated decisions Viz. Choose life, Choose career, Choose company we work for, choose life partner, choose close relationship or friendship etc.  it becomes very tricky situations; as this kind of decisions are long term influencing in life; right decision makes ourselves happy but other side will makes unsatisfied & upset.

Imagine in the middle of ocean, you are in a ship, where compass is not working – How you will feel?  Yes, it will be very difficult & panic situation, because it will be very tough and close to impossible to reach at your right destination at right time.

Like as ship, we all have compass, which will show us right path and right direction in any complicated situation at our life, if we able to find it or know to use this compass at right time.

You will surprised to know that your COMPASS is within you, it is your “CORE VALUES”.

Your core values will navigate and drive from your deepest inside, if we really know what our drivers are. When we know our values, we are free to find the best way to satisfy our deepest needs. Our core values, keeps us motivated and guiding us everything we do in our journey, called life.

In reality for common peoples like us, we want to reach on top of success ladder, be satisfied and happy in our life. But many times we have been realized, even-if we have got everything as per our defined success ladder, still we felt something are missing, don’t know what it is?  But not satisfied and happy at the end of day. This may be because of some of our core values are being compromised.

In the crossroad of crucial decision, many times we realized that our taken decision was not have happy conclusion and becomes upset about our decision. That kind of situation appears because we had taken decisions, which were not aligned with our core values.

Now point is, How to identify our Core Values?

It can be very much possible if we really looked for it.

You do calm down your mind, keeps focus on yourself, try to think about yourself and ask yourself few key questions and try to find out your answer coming from your deep inside.

  • What is important to you, in your life?
  • What matters you the most?
  • What are not negotiable to you?
  • What are those, which you do not go without it?
  • What makes you Happy?
  • What makes you a good person? What are the quality of a person that you like most?
  • What must you have in your life to be fulfilled?
  • What are the values that you absolutely must honor or a part you dies?

Once we able to identify, realized our core values, it will be much more important to understand, analyze and demonstrate them. Values are not acquired what we say, but it is what we do demonstrate. There are list of values we normally listen e.g. Honesty, integrity, trustworthy, respect, etc.  However, it is important that;

Are we really understand the same?

Are we really belief on the same from our deepest inside?

Let me share a story of Larry and John:

There were a leading company where John was CEO, he has going to retired in short time. Though he has no children, he has to choose his successor from his deputies. One day he has called a board meeting along with his all 10-12 deputies and share about planning to choose new CEO.

He has handover few seeds to each one of them and tell them to plant at their own place. Treat these seeds like as our own organization, take care and nurture them at your best, so that they will have appropriate growth; who will have largest plant after one month; he will be our new CEO

Each one has gone back and plant the seed, do watering, nurturing every day. Week after week, they are discussing about plant growth, gradual increasing the plant size among themselves. However, Larry was very much upset that, even after watering, nurturing and doing everything with best efforts, he does not found any growth from seed. Other colleagues teasing him for not getting any growth from seed.

At last, the day has come when new CEO will going to be declare. There were gathering of large no of people. Moreover, all have seen John has entering on the stage along with Larry, and declared him as New CEO. All have got surprised, as Larry has no growth of seed, still he has selected as new CEO. This is not fare.

John: I had given you seeds, which are DEAD seed. Still except Larry, all you have found very good growth from your given seed.

And Larry was only one who has no growth from Dead seeds. He is the only person not to cheat, who shows the value of INTEGRITY. We all should learn from him.

It is most important to Analyze and demonstration of your Core Values

Values needs to be identify with thorough understanding, deep analyzing, realization and belief. So that, it would be practice for demonstration. If you ask for some of the Idea, as an way forward for practice and demonstration of your core values, let me help you to make it effectively with going ahead stepwise as below;

  • Do recognize your values in true sense, name them, needs to understand them, and needs to think about the same.
  • Then analyze your recognized values. Sometimes values are in your subconscious mind, which were instill at early age, not only from parents or family but also from school and surroundings. Which may not with right analysis and true understanding about them. whatever core values you recognized, you needs to analyze without any judgement.
  • After recognize, analyze and understanding of your core values needs to practice and demonstrate them. You can connect with your life partner, friends or relatives and share with them about your values and what is not negotiable to you. This may help to have a common understanding.
  • Then you have to set Life-rules according to your core values, not according to others or any outside influence.

If you can remember that in last few months when you are really really annoyed and very very upset with some of your known person….e.g.

Someone treated you with disrespect and you feels hearted, you may quite angry or you may feel sad & emotional, based on your close relationship with them. That has happens because, one of your core values is RESPECT.

You have identified someone as falsifier, telling lie on you and you feels so angry that you becomes red faced, your mind boiling and blown out from ceiling. That has happens as one of your core value is TRUTHFULLNESS.

You have to figure out what makes you a very much uncomfortable and which are not acceptable.

Imagine, we are associated with such an organization, where our individual value and organizational values are incongruent, then what will be our feelings, how will be our satisfaction level and happiness at life?  Yes, we will continue with dissatisfaction, unhappy and mental stress. Your Core Values are situation independent decision helpers. Values defines how we want to continue to live.

Let us start to drive for recognizing our core values, take right decision at right time at complicated life situation. Ask yourself, who I am? What are those 3-5 words that defines – who I am?  Let us open our mind and lets the stress of our daily life aside, encourage your own values, share with others and live your life with happiness and satisfaction.

List of some Values for Reference

Sr. No. Values What Value Means
1 Abundance A very large quantity of something, an amount that is more than enough, an extremely plentiful or oversufficient quantity or supply
2 Acceptance General agreement that something is satisfactory or right, or that someone should be included in a group. Acceptance of a person is the act of agreeing to that person’s becoming a member of an organization or group
3 Assertiveness Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive to defend a right point of view or a relevant statement; The quality of being confident and not frightened to say what you want or believe
4 Balance The ability to respond and act appropriately in any given situation; Sensible and do not have many emotional problems; Considering all arguments, opinions, or aspects fairly and equally
5 Beauty The quality of being pleasing, especially to look at, or someone or something that gives great pleasure, especially when you look at it
6 Calmness The quality of being peaceful, quiet, and without worry; an absence of agitation or excitement, steadiness of mind under stress
7 Caring Feeling or showing concern for or kindness to others; A caring person is kind and gives emotional support to others
8 Challenge Something new and difficult that forces you to make a lot of effort; To question if something is true, right, etc., or not
9 Commitment A promise or agreement to do something; a responsibility; An agreement or pledge to do something in the future
10 Compassion A strong feeling of sympathy and sadness for the suffering or bad luck of others and a wish to help them: I was hoping she might show a little compassion. A deep awareness of and sympathy for another’s suffering
11 Confidence Trust or strong belief in somebody/something; A feeling of having little doubt about yourself and your abilities
12 Contentment A feeling of happy satisfaction; Ahe state of being happy and satisfied
13 Contribution Something that you give, especially money or help, or do together with other people
14 Cooperation Working together with somebody else to achieve something; An act or instance of working or acting together for a common purpose or benefit; joint action
15 Courage The ability to control fear in a situation that may be dangerous or unpleasant; The ability to control fear and to be willing to deal with something that is dangerous, difficult, or unpleasant
16 Courtesy Polite and pleasant behaviour that shows respect for other people; Behavior marked by polished manners or respect for others : courteous behavior
17 Creativity The ability to make or produce new things using skill or imagination; An ability to produce original and unique thoughts, ideas, and possibilities, to help solve
18 Dependability The quality of being trustworthy and reliable; The quality of being able to be trusted and being very likely to do what people expect:
19 Detachment The fact or feeling of not being personally involved in something; A feeling of not being involved with someone or something in a close or emotional way
20 Determination The quality of having firmly decided to do something, even if it is very difficult; Determination the quality of continuing to try to do something, even when it is difficult
21 Diligence The quality of doing work carefully and thoroughly; Constant and earnest effort to accomplish what is undertaken
22 Dicernment The ability to judge well; The ability to recognize small details, accurately tell the difference between similar things, and make intelligent judgements
23 Discipline The practice of training people to obey rules and behave well; Is the practice of making people obey rules or standards of behaviour, and punishing them
24 Diversity The wide variety of something; The quality or state of having many different forms, types, ideas, etc.
25 Enthusiasm A strong feeling of excitement or interest in something and a desire to become involved in it; A feeling of energetic interest in a particular subject or activity and an eagerness to be involved in it:
26 Equality The situation in which everyone has the same rights and advantages; Equality is a situation or state where all the members of a society or group have the same status, rights, and opportunities
27 Faith Strong belief (in somebody/something); trust; A high degree of trust or confidence in something or someone
28 Forgiveness To give up resentment against or the desire to punish; A term for absolving or giving up all claims on account of debt, loan, obligation, or other claims
29 Freedom The right or ability to do or say what you want; The condition or right of being able or allowed to do, say, think, etc.
30 Friendliness The quality of not harming someone or something, or of being good, helpful; The fact or quality of being pleasant and helpful towards other people
31 Generosity The quality of being kind, understanding, and not selfish; The spirit and action of freely and frequently giving to others
32 Gentleness The quality of being calm, kind, or soft:
33 Grace The ability to move in a smooth and controlled way; A way of moving that is smooth and attractive and that is not stiff or awkward
34 Gratitude The feeling of being grateful or of wanting to give your thanks to somebody A strong feeling of appreciation to someone or something for what the person has done to help you
35 Helpfulness Giving or rendering aid or assistance; of service Synonyms: useful, convenient; beneficial, advantageous.
36 Honesty Telling the truth or able to be trusted and not likely to steal, cheat, or lie; The quality of being fair and truthful the quality of being honest,
37 Honor The respect from other people that a person, country, etc. gets because of high standards of behaviour and moral character; To regard or treat (someone) with admiration and respect
38 Humility The feeling or attitude that you have no special importance that makes you better than others; lack of pride The quality of not thinking that you are better than other people
39 Humour Is a quality in something that makes you laugh; To keep somebody happy by doing what he/she wants; the funny or amusing qualities of somebody/something
40 Idealism The belief that a perfect life, situation, etc. can be achieved, even when this is not very likely; The practice of forming ideals or living under their influence
41 Integrity The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; A personal quality of fairness that we all aspire to
42 Joyfulness A state of being extremely happy; Showing or expressing joy, as looks, actions, or speech
43 Justice The fair treatment of people; the quality of being fair or reasonable; The maintenance or administration of what is just especially by the impartial adjustment of conflicting claims
44 Kindness The quality of being generous, helpful, and caring about other people; The quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate
45 Love A strong feeling that you have when you like somebody/something very much; A deep and tender feeling of affection for or attachment or devotion to a person or persons
46 Loyalty A faithfulness that is steadfast in the face of any temptation to renounce, desert, or betray; Loyalties are feelings of friendship, support, or duty towards someone or something
47 Mercy Kindness shown by somebody/something who has the power to make somebody suffer Kindness shown toward someone whom you have the right or power to punish Compassionate or kindly forbearance shown toward an offender, an enemy
48 Moderation The quality of being reasonable and not being extreme; In a way that is reasonable and not excessive : in a moderate way
49 Modesty The quality of not talking about or not trying to make people notice your abilities and achievements; The quality of not being too proud or confident about yourself or your abilities
50 Obedience The fact that people or animals do what they are told to do; Willing to do what someone tells you to do or to follow a law, rule
51 Openness The quality of being honest and ready to talk about your feelings; The quality of being receptive to new ideas, opinions, or arguments
52 Order An organized state, where everything is in its right place; A state in which all components or elements are arranged logically, comprehensibly, or naturally · an arrangement or disposition of things in succession
53 Passion Very strong feeling, especially of love, hate or anger A strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something
54 Patience The quality of being able to stay calm and not get angry, especially when there is a difficulty or you have to wait a long time; The ability to wait, or to continue doing something despite difficulties, or to suffer without complaining or becoming annoyed
55 Peacefulness A state of being quiet and calm; A state of feeling calm and not being worried
56 Perseverance Continued effort to do or achieve something, even when this is difficult or takes a long time; The quality of continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition
57 Purity The state of not being mixed with anything else The quality or condition of being pure.
58 Purpose The aim or intention of something The reason why something is done or used the aim or intention of something;
59 Reliability The quality of being able to be trusted or believed because of working or behaving well; Suggests consistent dependability of judgment, character, performance
60 Respect The feeling that you have when you admire or have a high opinion of somebody/something; Is a positive feeling or action shown towards someone or something considered important or held in high esteem or regard
61 Responsibility A duty to deal with something so that it is your fault if something goes wrong; The state or fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one’s power, control, or management.
62 Reverence A feeling of great respect; A feeling of respect or admiration for someone or something
63 Selflessness Concern more with the needs and wishes of others than with one’s own. The quality of caring more about what other people need and want than about what you yourself need and want
64 Service A system or organization that provides the public with something that it needs; the job that an organization does The work performed by one that serves. good service; Work done for others, such as cleaning or repairing, caring for a building, or making deliveries
65 Simplicity The quality of being easy to understand, do or use; The state of being simple, uncomplicated, or uncompounded
66 Stability The state or quality of being steady and not changing; A situation in which something such as an economy, company, or system can continue in a regular and successful way without unexpected changes
67 Tact The ability to deal with people without offending or upsetting them; The ability to say or do things in such a way that you do not make anyone unhappy or angry
68 Thankfullness The feeling of being happy or grateful because of something; Feeling or expressing gratitude; appreciative. OTHER WORDS FOR thankful. grateful, obliged; beholden, indebted
69 Tolerance The ability to deal with something unpleasant or annoying, or to continue existing despite bad or difficult conditions; Willingness to accept feelings, habits, or beliefs that are different from your own
70 Trust The belief that somebody is good, honest, sincere, etc. and will not try to harm or trick you
71 Trustwrthiness The ability to be relied on as honest or truthful; The quality of being deserving of trust or confidence; dependability; reliability:
72 Truthfulness The quality of being honest and not containing or telling any lies
73 Understanding The knowledge that somebody has of a particular subject or situation; The knowledge and ability to judge a particular situation or subject
74 Wisdom The ability to make sensible decisions and judgements because of your knowledge or experience; Wisdom is the combination of experience, knowledge and careful judgment.
75 Wonder A feeling of great surprise and admiration caused by seeing or experiencing something that is strange and new

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